Outgrowing Your Life
Outgrowing your life means the structures you built — role, relationships, routines, self-description — were designed by an earlier version of you with less information. Nothing has failed. The design has simply been superseded, and the discomfort you feel is the gap between the current you and the old specification.
Not a betrayal, a revision
Revising a structure you outgrew is maintenance, not disloyalty to who you were.